Good ones are hard to come by

Everyone says so.. at least everyone I talk to. The good ones are hard to come by/find. They use this to talk about cars, friends, men/women, or just things made of quality and last forever.

I will agree, to an extent.

A good friend is worth their weight in gold. Someone to talk to at anytime about anything. As you grow and mature, move, and evolve as a person, some friends come and go through your life. I have only 2 people from age 5-18. That i still call my  BFF friends.

That next chapter of life called College I have 1 BFF that i still talk to today (in fact i was her matron of honor at her wedding this Aug).

Turn the page again and I have my Army Friends. only 1 i still get the occassional Email or facebook status from. 1st duty station, 1 guy (Thomas BFF), and the 3 Roommates i had.

When i PCSed to Ft.Campbell well, I married that BFF  and the other just visits alot when she is in between duty stations :D...

We got to Germany and I made friends with all the neighbors, only 3-4 I would call close friends.

But now we are back in the US, and I'm back in college. I have a few girls I go to lunch with after class, or have a girls night out with. My neighbor across the street and I are wearing paths to each others doors. the Kids love to play with one another and we have a lot in common. And that friend from Germany well she lives a state away but we try to run into one another when we are in the same state. 1 has my phone number and calls/messages me alot :D

Point of all this is, a good friend in hard to come by. I dont know how many others have sat back and considered what qualifies who as a friendly acquaintance, and what makes them BFF. i explained my reasoning to someone a year or so ago and it goes like this. A BFF is someone who will come to you when your in crisis and listen, offer help, but wont judge you on this alone. a Friendly acquaintance is someone who you say HI to, kids come over, but you never bare your soul, never just hang out, and they run away and make excuses when your in crisis.

I wouldnt change who has stayed in my life and who has gone a different path. BUT I still miss one BFF from K-5th grade, I still google her name, and do name searches for her. She is the only one  I wish didnt move away...

Jocelyne has been spending a lot of time looking at the pics we have of friends from Germany and we talk about them, she writes them letters though we have yet to mail them. I tell her about how friends grow and change just like people. 

 I am thankful for the ones that stay, for the ones that were hard to find yet i found them. Friends in the deepest sense of the word.