fostering a family, growing together even when apart.

Its nice to spend quality time together, just ask the kids what their favorite part of the day is and it will be when we did this or that together. Life gets rushed and everyone gets over drawn, to many commitments, to little time, and something will give. Sometimes that's self-care ((SLEEP, hygiene, diet, exercise)), other times that could be family time.

I am not immune to this, no one is I think. I have tried so hard to be supermom, and yet its my kids who remind me that i dont have to be perfect i just have to love them and want whats best for them.

Fitting that we cover "Good Enough Mothering" a term coined by Donald Winnicott in the 1950's. Good enough, not bad, not spectacular, just good enough.... seems like that mom was suffering from lack of sleep, time alone, and time away to recharge.

With finals 2 weeks away, and all those end of term papers due, I have become a Good enough mother. I have done my best to find balance in the things I have to do, the things i want to do, and the things that would be fun to do.

This week I have gone twice to the children's museum, once just me and the kids (friday), and today with Amos. He was able to do some bonding with Jocelyne who has a excellent memory and will hold you to your word when you tell or promise her something. Yesterday he bonded with Balian when joss and i went shopping.

With conflicting schedules, its hard to find time to all spend together as a family. but we do, because its important. And having activities planned to do together helps, as well as "date nights", or just playing on the living room floor.

Im so thankful for a amazing husband and father to our children. Who works with me to make sure the kids have both parents here to love them and raise them.